This morning I looked outside and it didn’t seem that bad. But I knew the news was calling for anywhere from 10 to 14 inches of snow. So I called this weather hotline that our work has to tell us whether or not the office will be open. Of course the automated bitch on the other end of the line informs me that the office will indeed be open.

It took us an hour to get to work, but we made it in one piece and still on time. Yay!

Then around 12:30pm the business manager sends out an e-mail stating that the office will be closing at 2pm due to the snow. They should have just let us stay home. Seriously.

So we head back home. Shortly after getting in the door I go back out to the store to pick up a few things. Once home I munch a little bit and take a nap.

The phone rings and it’s my mother. Master woke me up and handed me the still ringing phone, which I wasn’t happy about. Mainly because I didn’t feel like talking and I knew it was about my brother.

I love my brother. But he’s a moron sometimes. So anyway my mom tells me about the ever changing situation regarding my brother and his now ex. My brother is listening to this 22 year old ex of his, who thinks she knows how the world works. Now. Most 22 year olds think they know everything. I get that, but hello.. that doesn’t mean you have to believe them.

Blah!

So I answered my mother’s questions and got her off the phone. So now I’m cranky, and trying to calm down. Fun for me. Fun for Master too, I’m sure.


Reconnecting

08Feb10

Last night after my father left, I wasn’t tired at all. So I took a quick bath and then spent some time with Master before we eventually retired to the bedroom.

Once in bed however, Master and I started cuddling which led to Him biting my neck, which felt really good. So as He still had my skin locked between His teeth He rolled me onto my back and positioned Himself between my legs. Shortly there after, He was inside me.

We haven’t been having sex a lot lately. Stress, not feeling well, and just generally being tired and/or busy has kind of put our sex life on hold from time to time lately.

The sex was incredible however. He positioned me several different ways before finally having me lay on my stomach and using me for His pleasure only.

He scented my scar by stroking His cock along it, getting my cum smeared all over. I wasn’t very gentle when I cleaned Him off with my mouth either, not that He wasn’t complaining. ;-)

I wanted more. I really did. I wanted to ride Him. But I knew I had to get up in 6 hours. And Master made it pretty clear that He wanted me to sleep. So today I am horny. I had a rough day at work and I’m mentally exhausted. But I’m horny as hell.

Master, the poor guy, has a bad headache. So hopefully He’ll be feeling better by the time we go to bed, He’ll be feeling better. *hint hint*


Dad Came Over

07Feb10

This will probably be a short post since it is already 10:30pm, and I have to go to work tomorrow.

Today Master and I spent most of the day here at the apartment. We left a couple times just to pick up stuff we needed. But other than that we weren’t sure when my dad was coming over, so we just kind of hung around.

Around 5pm my dad called and said they were on their way up. They were here about an hour later.

He brought his new girlfriend. She seems rather nice. She’s laid back, which is a good thing. I couldn’t really see my dad with someone who is stuck up anyway, but still.. I wasn’t sure what to expect.

We just sat in the living room and talked. That was nice. There were no other distractions. My dad is looking for some furniture to replace the stuff that his ex is taking when she moves. So I told him about this used furniture store that is by us. He wants to go there, and have us come with, next week Sunday. I told him that would be fine. Actually I wouldn’t mind looking around there anyway, just to see what they have. Maybe we could find a few pieces of furniture ourselves.

We mainly just talked. There weren’t a lot of questions or anything like that. I asked his new girlfriend a few questions, like where she was from, and about her kids.. but that was really about it. She didn’t ask any questions about me or Master. I’m assuming that my dad pretty much filled her in on everything already.

They left around 10pm. Master asked me what I thought of the new girlfriend. I think she’s nice. She’s somewhat similar to my dad’s now ex… I feel relaxed around her at least.

So, really that’s about it. I know, not really exciting. But I still have some things I have to do before I go to bed, and I want some down time with Master as well.

So I’m off. I’ll hopefully have a more interesting post tomorrow.


Headaches Suck

06Feb10

No, really. They totally do.

Master and I slept in rather late today. And oddly enough we’ve stayed home all day as well. Most of the day was spent just relaxing and what not.

But then I finally got off my tail and cleaned the kitchen and most of the living room. I say most, because having a German Shepard/Husky mix = never totally clean carpet. There is just so much fur! He sheds year round. It’s insane. He’s lucky we love him. *laughs*

My dad is coming over tomorrow, probably. With his work schedule who knows.

We were supposed to go to the tattoo parlor today to get Master’s latest tattoo touched up but His stomach was a bit upset. So He wanted to put it off.

Aside from that there isn’t a lot going on really.

I have this headache that is located at the base of my skull that is driving me nuts. Needless to say the cleaning products didn’t help that fact. And it also doesn’t help that Tylenol just isn’t cutting it. Fun for me!

So… yep. That’s pretty much about it.

All of my family drama is continuing, and some what escalating. But I don’t really feel like getting into it on here right now. Maybe when my head is feeling better.


(For those of you who are wondering, this is Friday 02/05/10’s post. I’m creating it slightly after midnight though, so it may read 02/06/10.)

I had called in sick on Monday, and had gone over my personal time by a little over 4 hours. As a result I had to make that time up. I hate going to work on the weekends, so I have been chipped away at it since Tuesday. Tuesday I got an extra half hour in. Wednesday and yesterday I got 45 minutes extra each day. That left me with a little over 2 hours to finish up.

So instead of taking part in my usual carpool, I took our car this morning. I got up at 5am and got to work around 6am. Thanks to that I was still able to leave my job around 12:20pm which was awesome! It sucked getting up that early, but that was better than staying until about 2:30pm on my half day, ya know?

Also I needed to get my driver’s license renewed, and going to the DMV on a Saturday is not my idea of a good time. So immediatley after work I hit the DMV. Thankfully it wasn’t that busy. But it still took about a half hour to get through it because the printer they use to make the license broke down right before it was my turn and it took them a while to get the back up printer up and running.

Thankfully the picture on it isn’t that bad. And now I don’t have to worry about it for another 8 years.

After that I hit the gas station to get cigarettes, and finally went home. Master and I relaxed a little while before I started getting really hungry. At that point we went out for an early dinner.

We had a blast! We joked around and just couldn’t stop laughing. I was slap happy from lack of sleep obviously, and I think Master just found it amusing. *giggles*

Shortly after we got back home I took a nap on my slave mat. He let me sleep for a couple of hours, which was nice.

Although this weekend is not turning out as I had expected. Not that I’m really complaining mind you.

Bro was supposed to come up this weekend. I was going to go pick him up tomorrow and have him stay for most of the day and drive him back home. Well last night he called me and said he had to cancel because he had to watch his kids. Okay not a problem.

I was still planning on visiting my mother though. But she wanted to reschedule to next weekend. Again fine by me. But then my brother told me he might still be able to come up because his ex might have found a babysitter so he wouldn’t have his boys. However, he wouldn’t know for sure until about an hour before hand.

So I just told him that I would rather just reschedule. It would piss me off if I drove down there to pick him up because he said there was a babysitter and then be on my way back home with him or already at the apartment and have his ex call saying the babysitter wanted to leave or some shit, or that she had to work late and the babysitter couldn’t stay.

It’s not that I don’t understand. It’s just that it would piss me off because of all the gas (all of my family lives about 45 minutes away) and the fact of not knowing what the hell was going on.

He said he understood, so we’ll just play it by ear from there.

My dad is probably still coming up sometime on Sunday though. I hope it’s not too late because I like to relax at home with just Master on Sunday evenings, since I have to work the next day.


Date Nights

04Feb10

While Master and I were watching Dexter last night I suddenly looked up at Him and said, “Babe? When we have some extra cash I think we should plan a date night.”

He smiled, and said that would be great. I’m thinking maybe a movie (at the theater, not at home) and then dinner somewhere. Now Master and I will try to go out to dinner about once a week if we have the money. But I want it to actually feel like a date, ya know?

I know what some of you may be thinking. “You guys live together. You’re married for fuck’s sake. What do you need a date night for?”

And honestly, I used to think that too. Like people who don’t have children living at home who plan date nights with their live in significant other and/or spouse… I thought it was weird. That is until I started to realize how much life can just take over and you lose sight of one another for a while. Not totally, though. I mean we’re still affectionate and playful. But still. I think it would be good to reconnect on a deeper, more relaxed level.

But honestly, for about a month now we’ve been so focused on everyone else. My brother. My dad. My mom. His mom. SS. The list continues. It seems when we’re together and just sitting and talking, that’s all we talk about. And I’m not saying that’s a bad thing or that I’m mad about it. There is a lot going on. But I want a night to just focus on us. No answering the phone. No making plans with other people. Just us and no talking about all the other stuff.

I think it will be nice. And I also think we both need it.

I’ve created a poll so you guys can let me know (and the other people who stumble across this blog) whether or not you do date nights with your significant other. Please feel free to participate! :-)

Also you may notice that at the bottom of each post there is a “rate this post” option with five stars. You can now rate all of my posts! :-D This is a new feature that I stumbled upon here on WordPress. I think it’ll prove to be interesting.


Catching Up

03Feb10

I didn’t do my blog post last night because Master and I had gotten home a little late and He said that it would be fine for me to skip it. So I did.

We had gone down to my dad’s house last night. My dad finally was able to tell me what is going on. Him and his now exgirlfriend are in fact broken up, and have been for about two months. DW (my dad’s now ex) is still living there and waiting to find a place. They are aiming at April right now. My dad is seeing someone new. She is 51 and my dad says he loves her. All I said was that I just want him to be happy. I mean he’s my dad, of course I want him to be happy, ya know? He assured me that he is.

In fact he wants to come up to our apartment on Sunday, and bring his new girlfriend with him. He hasn’t been up to our apartment in about two years, so needless to say I said that would be fine. I’m a little surprised he wants me to meet his girlfriend so soon. But then again Master and I were together only a few months when He met my father, so yeah.. I guess.

Plus I don’t know if it’s as big of a deal now to my dad, since I’m damn near 27 and what not. He just figures he’s 49 years old, I’m almost 27, we’re both adults and if I wasn’t comfortable with it I would say something. And he’s right.

To be honest when my dad was telling me everything, it was the closest I’ve felt to him in… damn… years. My dad typically doesn’t like getting all serious. We normally just joke around and hang out. So that was kind of cool actually.

The problem with my dad coming up on Sunday is that my brother wants to come up Saturday, and spend the night. That is a lot of family time in one weekend. I love my father and my brother, but damn. Plus, I know my brother would not do well with meeting Dad’s new girlfriend already.

My brother is 25, but he has some mental disabilities where he doesn’t cope with things the same way a “normal” 25 year old would. In fact Bro still wishes our parents would get back together. They have been divorced for 10 years now. My brother was 15 and I was 17 when they split. My mother has a new husband that she has been with for about 8 years. Yeah. There is no chance in hell that’s happening.

So I’m thinking about two other possibilities. One way or another I’m having dad come up. Bro was just here two weeks ago. Dad hasn’t been here in a long time, and I haven’t seen a lot of him lately.

Either 1) I’ll have my brother come up on Saturday, but he just won’t spend the night. Or 2) Totally reschedule with my brother.

But I don’t want Bro thinking I’m pushing him aside for my dad. It’s just that driving a 45 minute one way trip four times (drive down and pick up, drive back, drive down to drop off, drive back) is hell on the gas tank. And my mom has offered to hand me $10 in gas money, but still.

I don’t know. I just told Master we would decide everything on Friday, as far as my brother goes.

As it is on Friday I won’t be getting out at noon because I have a few hours to make-up from taking off on Monday due to not feeling well. I think it’ll only be like 2 1/2 hours. But still. Getting out at 2:30pm on a day you normally get out at noon? Yeah. That bites.


Last night I tried to go to bed around my usual time. Actually it was about an hour and a half later than that. But I couldn’t fall asleep. For the past two days my stomach has been giving me problems, and it’s uncomfortable.

So after a while I knew I wasn’t going to fall asleep so I went back out into the living room with Master. He asked me what was wrong, and I told Him. He said that maybe I should stay home from work, since I haven’t been feeling well for the past two days, and I’m in a constant state of discomfort.

So I weighed the pros and cons of it. And I decided that He was right. If I went to work I probably just would have ended up feeling worse and would have had the rest of the week to get through.

So I called in. The extra sleep helped. My stomach is getting gradually better however. And I will be going to work tomorrow.

The only problem is that I didn’t have enough personal time to cover having a whole day out of the office. So I have to talk to my supervisor tomorrow about how things proceed from there. The employee handbook says you have to make that time up. But MZ from my department says that our supervisor doesn’t always have us do that. So who knows.

I may have to stay on my half day. But oh well. Things happen.

I’m still not feeling 100%, but not much to be done about it. My body will eventually regulate itself.


Accents

31Jan10

Okay Master and I were born and raised here in Wisconsin. And apparently most of the world seems to think that we have accents, because we’re from Wisconsin. I don’t hear it, but whatever.

That’s not really the point of this post. In fact this post doesn’t really have a point. I’m just babbling.

Sometimes I’ll slip into this southern twang when I talk. I have no idea why really. Master finds it sexy. But as I’ve said I’ve lived in Wisconsin my entire life.

So really the only rational explanation is that my mother’s father is from the south and my mom grew up with him. Now where as I don’t know my maternal grandfather very well, I heard it a lot when I was a baby. He moved away to Texas shortly after my brother was born. And my mother used to slip into it as well. Although I don’t hear her do it anymore. It’s a long shot, but really the only explanation that I have.

Master on the other hand is a damn good mimic, and can copy damn near any accent. He uses it to make me laugh usually, or to just be well… a smart ass. *laughs*

Sometimes we’ll do it back and forth (talk in accents) just to have fun. Gods we sound like dorks, don’t we?

I find it amusing though, and just one of those little quirks we have.

Today we haven’t done much. I talked to my mother for a little while, and ran out and got us dinner. We ate dinner and watched some Dexter.

That’s really about it.

There isn’t much kink or sex going on. It’s so fucking cold that we’re both covered up all the time. And by the time we go to bed the bed is cold and we have to lay there for a little bit before it finally warms up and then we’re basically just concentrating on staying warm. Now yes, sex will make you warm.. but not until you both get naked and freeze a little bit while initiating sex.

I’m not saying that I don’t want to have sex. It just hasn’t really been on the forefront of our minds lately. Stress at work and stress from family has kind of overwhelmed me. And Master is dealing with stress from His family as well.

But we’ll get our mojo back.


I don’t really have a lot to say tonight. I mean last night I slept in the living room until Master was ready for bed, since I didn’t have to get up early in the morning. And then we both slept in until about noon today.

I only left the apartment once today and that was to make a run to the gas station. That is when I discovered that it was snowing. Yuck. I’m sick of snow.

For dinner we had Pizza Hut.

For entertainment we have been alternating between doing our own things (on the computer and Xbox 360) or have been watching Dexter on Netflix.

Other than that we’ve been just trying to stay warm by remaining clothed and cuddled up. Him in His recliner and me either on the computer chair or on my slave mat.

So yeah. Not a lot going on.

But hey! At least it’s a nice lazy Saturday!


Apologies

29Jan10

Well last night I vented. It was both about Master’s new game and my job. And in Master’s comment on said post, He stated that He did in fact have insomnia. We both suffer from it. But part of me had thought maybe He was like forcing Himself to stay awake so He could play His game. But of course I didn’t ask, so I got pissy for no reason.

So today on my lunch break at work, we talked. I apologized and He apologized. We had both been cranky when we talked earlier today, before my lunch break. So I felt a lot better after we talked the second time.

Really, I have no problem with Him playing video games. And I know I was no where near “gamer widow” territory. I have been there, done that, got the t-shirt and burned that mother fucker. My ex was the type to get up, play his game, go to work, come home, play the game, go to sleep. Repeat. I know exactly what it feels like to be a gamer widow and I will never do that again. Ever.

Even when Master is totally enthralled in a game (which honestly, is not very often at all) He will still talk to me, joke around, and stuff like that. So it’s not like He totally ignores me or anything.

I was bitchy last night because work has been a pain in my tail lately. Well mainly my coworker (the one that is forever pissing me off) has been a pain in my tail. Not so much the job itself. So since I was already in bitch mode, I decided to vent about other things that really had nothing to do with my mood.

Yes, going to bed alone sucks. But it happens. Like I said, we both suffer from insomnia from time to time. He’s gone to bed without me before, because I simply could not relax enough to even lay down. So I know what that’s like.

So Master and I apologized. I explained why I had typed up the things I did, and He explained where He was coming from. That was that. See what happens when we just open our mouths and speak? Progress! *gasp!*

However, I’m in a much better mood today. So tonight has been great. We had dinner, and watched a movie. Now we’re just kind of relaxing and I’m glad that my weekend is finally here.


Blarg

28Jan10

I don’t even know what the title of this post means. It just seemed fitting I guess.

Last night Master played Mass Effect 2 again. He offered a couple times to watch a DVD with me, but I knew He really wanted to keep playing the game. I know He has waited on that game since He finished the first one, plus He had been without His Xbox 360 for a while. And that would be like me being without a computer for that long. I’d be obsessed with getting reacquainted with it.

So I said no, that it was fine. I would just stay on the computer. And really, it was fine. We took care of the animals a bit early. We usually take the dog out and take care of the rabbits around 11pm. I suggested that we do it at 10:30pm so that it was done with and we could relax afterward. So we did that, came back out into the living room and Master resumed His game and I went back online.

Around 11:30pm I convinced myself that I should probably get my tail to bed so I wasn’t overly tired in the morning. I normally go to bed around 11pm so, yeah. Bed time.

So I stood up and looked at Master and said, “I’m tired Sir. I’m gonna go to bed.” He nodded and said that was fine. I asked if He was going to bed with me, and He said no because He was close to beating the game.

That irritated me a bit. He had stayed up late the night before, and I had gone to bed alone because He wanted to play the game. And again? *sigh* But I told myself that part of it is the excitement over the new game, and part of it may be insomnia. Which it very well may be. I didn’t bother to ask.

I started to shuffle down the hall to the bedroom and He stopped me and asked for a hug.

I hate sleeping by myself. It is hard for me to fall asleep when He’s not in bed with me. Plus I look forward to cuddling up in bed together each night. I could have slept out here in the living room, but Mass Effect 2 has a lot of talking, and Master needs to hear it because it tells Him what to do next and all that. So I knew I wasn’t going to sleep through all that plus gunfire. At least not easily.

As it was, after I climbed into bed and tried to get warm, I could still hear the game loud and clear. I thought about shutting the bedroom door, but when I do that our dog whines and whimpers because that door is almost never shut and he’s used to being able to go wherever he wants in the apartment. So I figured hearing the game was better than hearing the dog and then hearing Master bitch at the dog.

So I covered my head with a blanket and concentrated on sleeping. Eventually I drifted off.

I got up this morning and somehow I knew today was going to suck. And I was right. Of course.

Work was a pain in the ass. My coworker told me she might leave early today, or just take tomorrow off. Which would have meant that I would have to do her job plus mine, and I can’t really do both at the same time. So I cranked the work that was necessary as fast as I could in preparation for her leaving so I wouldn’t be so backlogged.

I finally asked her if she was in fact leaving, after I had gotten a shitload of work done, and she said no. *sigh* So I did the other stuff I had set aside earlier in the day. But it didn’t help that they had someone in the building applying stain to pieces of furniture in certain offices. And of course one of the offices was the one I sit right fucking next too. So that gave me one hell of a headache for most of the day.

I got out of work and came home. We need to go grocery shopping, so shortly after I walked in Master asked what I wanted to do for dinner. I didn’t really care cause I wasn’t that hungry. So I said MacDonald’s. So He said, “Okay.” and then asked me who was running.

He was sitting there in His recliner with clothes on but no shoes or anything. So I sighed and said I would go. Normally when He asks who is doing the run to get whatever, that means He doesn’t want to do it.

So I hopped in the car and blasted music. I was already in a bad mood, and for some reason loud music does one of two things. It either ramps me up more, or it acts as a release so I can calm down.

Thankfully this time it allowed me to calm down. Although I think the nice hot bath I took immediately after dinner, and the Mike’s Hard Lemonade I drank helped a bit too.

So I’m calm and just kind of here at the moment. But I can’t wait for this week to be over.


Last night I went to bed by myself. I hadn’t been feeling 100% all day and Master wanted to stay up late to play His new video game. So I wandered off to bed around 11pm. Master says He came to bed around 2am.

This morning was freezing! I didn’t want to take my robe off. It was a chore changing into clothes. To bad casual attire at work doesn’t include extra comfy and warm robes. *laughs*

Work was busy, as was expected. But I got all of my work done. Although it kept piling up on my desk, so tomorrow will be busy as well.

When I got home from work Master was bundled up in His jeans and a sweatshirt. You know it’s cold when He’s bundled up. The man who is a walking furnace in a sweatshirt? Yeah, it’s fucking cold.

As a result He is allowing me to wear clothes and a robe around the apartment. Normally I am nude when I’m at home, but He doesn’t want me catching a cold or anything.

Yes, we do have heat in our apartment, but this place is so damn drafty thanks to the two sliding glass doors (one on each end of the apartment) that it doesn’t feel warm in here at all. It happens every winter, and we’ve gotten used to it.

Master is playing His video game. He seems really into it. We received a DVD in the mail from Netflix and He offered to watch it with me, but I know He really wants to keep cranking away at Mass Effect 2, so I am finding ways to entertain myself on the computer.

One of those ways was starting our taxes. Yeah. I shouldn’t have done that. We are missing one W-2, from His last job. After that I can go ahead and file. Although unless that other W-2 really swings us the other way, we’re going to end up owing this year.

Honestly it’ll be the first time in the history of ever that I will owe when filing taxes. It seems that job He quit due to health concerns wasn’t taking enough money out in Federal. Once I entered that W-2, the nice fat refund I had calculated went bye-bye and the amount shown was a nice scary shade of red. But I won’t know for sure until I get that last W-2. I usually like to wait until about the second week of February to file anyway, just in case there is another form I have to add to it that I had forgotten about.

I had two jobs, Master had two jobs, plus some other bullshit.

Hopefully in 2010, when I file taxes, I’ll just have one W-2. I’m coming up on a year at my current job. It’ll be a year in March. I really like my job and really the only thing that will probably make me leave that job is due to not having a way out there. It’s further away from home than any other job I’ve had. But to me it’s worth it since I actually don’t mind the job, and I think I’m pretty damn good at it.


Okay, the family drama is still going on, and I’ll get to that in a moment.

Work today was okay. I was tired all day long. I felt like I was going to nod off at my desk a few times. But I got my work done. The rest of this week, work wise, is going to be busy, busy, busy. The replacement chair my supervisor ordered for me came in today, and was at my desk when I got back from lunch. It is a lot more comfortable and I don’t feel like I have to hunch forward all of the time anymore.

Master had been waiting for Mass Effect 2 to come out since He finished the first installment of that game series. That game came out today, and He was at the store to pick it up as soon it opened. The problem was that His Xbox 360 Elite is currently down and we are waiting for the shipping label to be sent to us so we can have it sent in for repairs.

So I suggested to Master that we find a used Xbox 360 to use as a backup system for when this kind of thing happens. We rely on the Xbox 360 quite a bit for entertainment. We both play video games, we watch stream able movies on Netflix, we download movies from the marketplace. All that happy horse shit.

So when it’s down, since we don’t have cable or anything like that, we have the computer, Magic cards, and checkers. And trust me, we’ve done it before, three weeks of just that makes you crazy. Especially when you both want to use the computer at the same time.

So I called a few places and found a used Xbox 360 for $140. I called Master’s cell phone and told Him. He said He was on His way. He picked one up and got it home. He set it up and the damn thing didn’t work. Thankfully, it automatically comes with a 90 day warranty, and so Master immediately took it back to the store and got a different one. He even bitched them out because this particular store has screwed us in the past, and it is a store that we use as a last resort these days.

This one thankfully works. Now we have a backup system for when the main one is down. Yay! Master is extremely happy at the moment and when I got home from work I got a lot of hugs and kisses as a thank you for finding a way to swing that into our budget. Gotta keep the man happy ya know. ;-)

Okay. So on to the family drama.

My mom called me not 20 minutes before I started this blog post. Apparently my brother and his ex are going rounds on this, that and the other thing. Which is only natural with such a sudden break up.

Bro has never been through what I call an “adult break up”. He’s done the teenage breakups before, but those are so much easier.

“Here are your CDs back. Give me back my jacket.” = done deal in teenage break ups.

Adult breakups include lease agreements, car arrangements, past debt, current bills, children (in this case between my brother and his ex), the list continues.

They have only been officially over for less than four days. So it’s a lot of drama right now and a lot of back and forth. She is still trying to treat him like he’s at her beck and call and he’s starting to put his foot down about it. She’s not liking that too much.

So since Bro is staying at Mom’s house she is of course privy to all of the little bits of information and whenever Bro and his ex have a fight or talk he tells my mom, because aside from Master and myself he doesn’t have many other people to talk to.

So as soon as Bro is out of the room, she calls me and tells me I should have a pep talk with him. So this time, I told Mom no. I told her that he needs to figure this stuff out on his own. If he wants to call me and ask for advice, that’s one thing. But I’m not going to call him and start telling him how he should handle things. His ex has been dictating his life for over 6 years now. It’s time for him to figure out how to handle his own shit, granted with some guidance if he wants it, but still.

My main point to Bro has been, and will continue to be, that he needs to get a job. This will make his situation more bearable and he’ll be able to contribute to his children’s care. I offered to help him create a resume. I’m good at making them, in my own humble opinion.

Sometimes when family stuff goes down I feel like the only one who is able to cut through the shit and go “A to B to C. Done.” My mom has an anxiety disorder, so she freaks out rather easily unless it’s medically related. But if it deals with emotions she has to have a while to sort through it all before she can think about it clearly, even if she isn’t directly involved. So she calls me for advice.

For my brother, he is quick to get pissed off and not think clearly, or revert to what is “normal” for him.

My dad? My dad prefers to be a friend than a father figure. Bro and I can joke around with him and what not, but when a conversation turns serious he clams up.

No wonder Master thought I was adopted when He first met my family.


Uncomfortable

25Jan10

On Saturday night when my brother was here, we were all sitting around (Master, myself, Bro, and SS) and Bro suddenly said something along the lines of “I know things about my sister that no one else does.”

I honestly don’t remember exactly what he said, or how we got onto this particular subject. But anyway, Master kind of challenged Bro about it. So my brother started off with stories from when him and I were kids and Master already knew most of those.

And Master knew the next one as well..

Bro brought up the guy I lost my virginity to. And I sat there and let him talk about it.

Now where as you know (normally) that there are people that your spouse has had others before you, most people (Master and I included) don’t like to hear about it.

Master was uncomfortable, but didn’t say anything. And I didn’t stop my brother from talking about it.

Master found it disrespectful. And I completely understand where He is coming from on that one. I mean I get uncomfortable just hearing stories about His exes.

We are highly territorial of one another. And it seems that those feelings reach into the past, before we knew one another. Then again I have to remind myself sometimes that there was a time before Master.

I don’t think about my past if I can help it. Growing up memories, like with my family members? Sure. But relationship wise? No. I do my best to ban such thoughts from my mind. And thankfully it works, that is until someone else brings it up.

I think that may be part of the reason why I don’t have any of my old friends still around. They remind me of things that I don’t want to remember, think about, or talk about.

I greatly enjoy talking about our relationship’s past, meaning Master’s and mine. But beyond that? I don’t want to think about it. Thankfully it is a bit easier for me since I have been with Master since I was 20. I’m almost 27 now, and the rest of my life will involve Him, since He is my Husband and my mate.

I should have told Bro to stop talking about it. It was disrespectful for us to talk about it in front of my Husband. And it made me uncomfortable to talk about it, end of story.

For not ending the conversation, I apologize to my Husband.

I know it would upset me deeply to hear such things. In fact sometimes when His friends talk about His exes, I feel sick to my stomach.

I wasn’t thinking when I didn’t cut Bro off.

It’s just been so long that I’ve been in that sort of situation, due to not having many of those people around anymore, that I was in a bit of shock when it was first brought up.

Master, You are the only one who matters. You are my true mate and love. If a conversation ever starts to touch on such subject matter again, I will cut it off so that it does not go any father than the first few words out of said person’s mouth. I know that You do that for me, as well as for Yourself, when Your friends do it. I will do the same.