I knew reading some threads would spark a post. And I was right. One particular thread I was reading dealt with strength and how that triggers submission in some people. They were talking about physical strength. And I commented on it, but I wanted to explore it a bit more here, on my blog where I can ramble on. *laughs*

Master’s physical strength is one of the things that first attracted me to Him. And I admit because He is much stronger then I am I feel safe with Him. But that is not the only reason that I feel safe with Him. I feel safe with Him because I know He will always take care of me, and do His best to keep me out of harm’s way. Harm meaning physical, emotional, and mental harm. So basically, across the board.

But I also said that it is not why I submit to Him. His physical strength has nothing to do with my submitting to Him. I don’t submit to Him because He can physically overpower me. I submit to Him because it is my natural instinct to do so. Yes, I fuck up. Yes, I have struggled and may continue to do so at some point down the road. But that doesn’t change the fact that my natural instinct is to submit to my Husband. I don’t know exactly what it is about Him, but something in me just looks at Him and goes… this is the one I am supposed to be with, and as a reaction to that I submit. I think heavily along the lines of primal nature. He is my Alpha male. And as a result of that, I submit to Him. I would not say that I have a submissive personality. I do not submit to anyone but Him. If anything, I would say I’m pretty outgoing, opinionated, and sometimes aggressive in my daily life.

But let’s get back on topic here. (I titled this post this way for a reason. Can you tell?) I stated that if physical strength is the only reason you submit to someone, wouldn’t that deteriorate over time? I am with Master for the rest of my life. And as we both get older, there are going to be things that we can not do anymore that we do now. I may get to a point where I’m not going to be able to show my submission to Him in all of the physical ways that I do now. Crawling, kneeling for extended periods of time, etc. And there may be a point where He can not assert His Domination physically like He does now. Why? Well, hell. Because we’re not immortal. We’re not going to stay the same. Our bodies our going to change and we’re not going to like all the changes that happen. Does that mean that He isn’t going to enjoy me anymore? Because I can not show Him with my movements and actions my submission all the time? I doubt it. Does that mean that I am not going to feel Dominated or Owned anymore because He can not do all that He does now? No.

He doesn’t Own me because He can pin me down and do what the hell He wants. He Owns me because I love Him and because He has that effect on me. As I have the effect on Him of bringing out His Dominant nature. He Dominates me in more ways then just the physical. There is the mental and emotional as well. Ownership, in my opinion, shouldn’t just be about the physical aspects. If it is, I have a feeling it will be rather short lived. Or at the very least that it isn’t a lifelong commitment. Now am I saying that all M/s relationships should be life long? Obviously not. You don’t always find the one you want to be with. Feelings change. People change. Hell, sometimes people just don’t want that aspect of the relationship any longer. And I understand that. I really do. But to say that strength is the only reason seems a bit… shallow to me. I may be wrong, but it’s how I feel. That’s how it comes across to me.

Do I enjoy the fact that He can physically overpower me and toss me around like a ragdoll? Yes. I greatly enjoy it. But I don’t expect it. I know that it may not always be possible. Just as I know it may not always be possible to be the flexible slut that I am right now.

And at this point, I kind of feel like I’m letting this post go in circles. So I’ll cut myself off here.

Oh! And there is a new posting on my Dear Kitten page. Yay! Enjoy.